Did you grow up with a problem drinker?

By | November 8, 2019

Some of our meetings focused solely on the issues that might occur after growing up with a problem drinker. These meetings are marked as ‘Adult Children’. Click the below button to see a list of just these meeting types.

20 Questions for adult children of alcoholics

Did You Grow Up With a Problem Drinker? Answer these questions to see if you are still affected today.

  1. Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
  2. Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
  3. Do you fear criticism?
  4. Do you overextend yourself?
  5. Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
  6. Do you have a need for perfection?
  7. Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
  8. Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
  9. Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
  10. Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
  11. Do you isolate yourself from other people?
  12. Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
  13. Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
  14. Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
  15. Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
  16. Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and abusive?
  17. Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
  18. Do you mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
  19. Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
  20. Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?

If you answered “yes” to some or all of the above questions, Al-Anon may help.

© 1985 Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. “Did You Grow Up With A Problem Drinker?” (S-25)